Dechen's
The World I Know, My Small World.
Sunday, October 15, 2023
The Habit of being Proactive
Tuesday, September 19, 2023
P/PC
There’s this concept I find very valuable (again from the same book, "7 Habits of Highly Effective People"), and it's called "P/PC," which stands for "Production" and "Production Capability." Let me break it down for you in my own words:
Production (P): This is the result or output of our efforts. It's what we get when we work on something. For example, if we have a garden, the vegetables we grow in it are the production.
Production Capability (PC): This is like the health and quality of the garden itself. It's the ability to produce more vegetables in the future. So, if we take good care of the soil, water it, and keep it healthy, our garden will have a strong production capability. Now, balancing P/PC means not just focusing on the immediate result (the vegetables) but also taking care of what allows us to produce more in the long run (the healthy garden).
Here's how we can use this concept in our life:
Example: Let's say we have a job, and we work really hard to get a promotion (that's the production). But if we work so hard that we get stressed and burn out, we might harm our production capability (our health and well-being).
Balancing: To balance P/PC, we should work hard for our promotion but also take care of our health by managing stress, getting enough rest, and staying physically active. This way, we can achieve our short-term goals (production) while ensuring we can keep performing well in the long run (production capability). In our life, we should not just think about the immediate results but also about the ability to produce more in the future. It's about finding a healthy balance between what we do now and what helps us do it better over time.
My understanding of Proactivity, Positive thinking, R and I
Monday, August 21, 2023
Discovering Mindfulness through Youngey Mingyur Rinpoche's Videos
Sunday, August 13, 2023
Discovering New Perspectives: Lessons from 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Sometimes, reading books is easy when we just read and know the meanings of words. But, it becomes harder when we really want to understand and digest the meaning. So, for me, reading books needs a lot of effort and energy. That's why I get bored and lose focus when reading non-fiction books. To fix this, I started writing down the main things I learn from books in my blog. I hope this will help me understand better and stay interested, and also keep me going with my blogging.
Lately, I began reading a book titled "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Covey. At the start of the book, it talks about "Paradigm and Principles" before introducing us to the 7 habits. The portion on paradigms and principles focuses on helping us understand the significance of paradigms and how they affect the way we behave and the results we achieve. He defines paradigm as the way we see, perceive, understand and interpret the world.
Picture: Google |
While the author was explaining why changing how we see things is important, there was a story that really made me think. I want to share it here:
“I remember a mini-paradigm shift I experienced one Sunday morning on a subway in New York. People were sitting quietly- some reading newspapers, some lost in thought, some resting with their eyes closed. It was a calm, peaceful scene.
Then suddenly, a man and his children entered the subway car. The children were so loud and rambunctious that instantly the whole climate changed.
The man sat down next to me and closed his eyes, apparently oblivious to the situation. The children were yelling back and forth, throwing things, even grabbing people's papers. It was very disturbing. And yet, the man sitting next to me did nothing.
It was difficult not to feel irritated. I could not believe that he could be so insensitive as to let his children run wild like that and do nothing about it, taking no responsibility at all. It was easy to see that everyone else on the subway felt irritated, too. So finally, with what I felt was unusual patience and restraint, I turned to him and said, "Sir, your children are really disturbing a lot of peo- ple. I wonder if you couldn't control them a little more?"
The man lifted his gaze as if to come to a consciousness of the situation for the first time and said softly, "Oh, you're right. I guess I should do something about it. We just came from the hospital where their mother died about an hour ago. I don't know what to think, and I guess they don't know how to handle it either."
Can you imagine what I felt at that moment? My paradigm shifted. Suddenly I saw things differently, and because I saw differently, I thought differently, I felt differently, I behaved differently. My irritation vanished. I didn't have to worry about controlling my attitude or my behavior; my heart was filled with the man's pain. Feelings of sympathy and compassion flowed freely. "Your wife just died? Oh, I'm so sorry! Can you tell me about it? What can I do to help?" Everything changed in an instant.”
This story made me realize that sometimes we don't really know much about things that happen in our everyday life. We live alongside others, but sometimes we quickly decide what we think about them based on what they say or do. We don't really stop to think more, and just one talk or thing they do can completely change how we see them. But, like the story says, it's very important to know everything before we decide. I believe if we take time to really understand instead of just guessing and assuming, the world could be much better. It could make our minds feel calm and make life easier even when things are hard sometimes.
But you know, it's not always easy. We have a lots of things happening in our own lives, and trying to really understand what someone else is feeling or thinking can be hard. But we can't just ignore what they're going through. We need to understand and help each other, but sometimes we don't realize how important it is to be connected and help each other. So, where and how should I decide what to do? How can we be nice to others even when we're having a tough time ourselves? I'm curious about these things as I keep reading.
There's something else the author talked about that caught my attention. When we have problems, we usually look for quick ways to fix them, like getting advice or watching videos that seem to tell us how to fix things. But the author says it's like using makeup or taking medicine for a headache. Although it solves our problem temporarily, the real issue is still there. I'm really excited to learn how to actually fix the real problems instead of just the quick answers through this book and the 7 habits we need to imbibe to become an effective person. I'll keep sharing what I learn. Please comment to help me encourage writing and sharing my thoughts.
Tuesday, January 28, 2020
Hope
What if?
What color do you think I would be
Pink, Red, Yellow or White?
I bet Red indeed would be a treat!
If you were a bee of free in my field
What color do you think you would choose?
Pink, Red, Yellow or White?
I bet Red indeed would be the best!
If we were a flower and a bee
Would you have frequented me
Or gone when the nectars done
Or when the spring's over
If I am a flower of free in your field
Would my fragnance fill the air?
If you were a bee of free your field
Would your charm fill the sky?
Together, would we create a beautiful field?
Together, would we glow in the dark?
Together, would there be pure happiness?
In the field of gentle light and breeze!
Friday, June 3, 2016
Closer to Home
Are you going to play the upcoming football tournament? Are you taking part in these and that.....all out of home.... A delightful Yes! Basically, he likes to go out and encourages me to go out as well. He often said, he missed his free bachelor life.
When we first married, he was the one who gave me lots of love and attention. He loved to spent more time together with me. He once asked for a date over a Dzongkha movie which now he never watches even if its compulsory. After marriage, it became just the opposite. I was the one seeking attention instead. My married life became unromantic day by day. I was the housekeeper and our home was just a shelter. I wanted him to spend more time with me but for him, his friends and social life was more important. I think this is the point of time when most husband and wife faces controversies. Husbands misses their free life while wives want to see them fulfill their promises.
He was playing endless football tournaments when I was pregnant. I earnestly wished him to stay by my side, comforting me and listening to me. I am not telling that he did not care me at all. He did all the household chores and prepared delicious meals every time. He is a good cook and I always proudly tell this to almost all my friends. By the time he comes home, it will be already dark. Then he would do the cleaning, washing and prepare dinner. I would be already angry when he returned home and there would be not much of talking by then.
After Thuksel, my life changed a lot. He play games, he goes out but he has time for us. He loves going out with us, loves taking pictures and spending time at home. He takes care of our son more than I do and he cares me too. He quit drinking and that's the biggest appreciation I have.
I thank you Thuksel, for bringing your dad closer to you, closer to me and closer to home. You did what I can't! I hope you will always do what I can't and what I didn't even think of in your life. I don't know how long this happiness will last as everything is impermanent but will always be thankful for the happiness both of you give me.
Friday, October 16, 2015
Golden Jubilee celebration in Tang Central School
As a remembrance and tribute to the school, the alumni of TCS formed a body to help Tang Celebrate it's 50th birth anniversary. From the fund generated from the community, we built a Jamyang Phodrang in front of the main academic block. Mr. Sonam Wangdi and Mr. Renchin Thinley coordinated the whole program and made our school look even more beautiful. An alumnus, Thinley, sponsored all the wood materials on top of being the head architect for the structure.
Newly constructed Jamyang Phodrang |
The Habit of being Proactive
I've finished reading the first habit of effectiveness, "Be Proactive," and I want to share what I've learned. Being proac...
-
The start of a new year feels so momentous: 365 brand-new days, with no mistakes in them. There's so much opportunity: opportunitie...
-
The past four years were the most indelible moments of my life. When I first joined college in 2009, four years sounded like eternity. I...
-
Sometimes, reading books is easy when we just read and know the meanings of words. But, it becomes harder when we really want to understand ...